It is all too common today for parents to have a view point of their children that once they get into a certain age like “the terrible two’s” or “adolescence” and I am sure there are more; that their children all of a sudden become a nuisance or annoyance to the parents. It is a predicted proclamation that comes out of the parent’s mouth all too easily.
Can you imagine if God had this disposition about you when you were looking forward to growing up more into the new creation he has called you to come into? Thank the Lord He does not think or speak in such a way.
I think back to the beginning after Adam and Eve sinned. The Bible says once they partook of the forbidden fruit, their eyes opened and saw they were naked. In other words, their perspective about themselves changed. Rightfully so, when we welcome in sin, our perspective ought to change and not for the better.
However when Adam was hiding and God came calling his name, Adam reveals to God that he was hiding because he was naked, which also means Adam was ashamed. Then God asks this provoking question, “WHO SAID, you were naked?” Genesis 3:11
“WHO... TOLD YOU, you were naked?” What a question! What God was asking was, “who told you, you were a shame? Who said you are no value? Who said that you are an embarrassment? Who said you are annoying? Who said I am ashamed of you? WHO SAID? Because The One who created you Adam never said that. The One who first loved you never spoke it! The One who has nurtured you, provided this garden for you, provided your wife for you has never said that! So WHO spoke in such a way that caused you to believe the depreciation of the value of thoughts that I think toward you? WHO said? Because it wasn't Me!"
C'mon this is the Heavenly Father who was caught walking in the cool of the day and NOT the he's of the moment, asking His very own creation, His child this POWERFUL and PROFOUND question!
I believe if we acknowledge our child to be a blessing from The Lord, we need not to speak or proclaim over them that the present or next season of their life, as they grow unto maturity would be something so intolerable that we as their parent look forward to fast-forwarding that part of their life from our experience.
Though God knew exactly what happened to Adam and Eve prior to calling them out, God viewed them still with His initial desire in mind and heart toward them. Though God who is all knowing, knew the capabilities of His creation, He determined in His nature that He would always give a loving disposition toward them. Now it was up to them to come into it or not. Depending on how they received WHO God is and His heart, would determine the state they would live in.
God never spoke anything condemning and therefore, though mankind had to deal with the repercussion and consequences of sin, they knew that with God on their side and them on His, everything was going to still be alright.
Parents don’t curse the seasons of life upon your children. The reason many of times they may act the way they do that bugs you, is because you never took the time nor attitude to walk and talk in love toward them and about them.
When Laurel and I were about to get married, some people would say “Just wait…it will get old”. Then when they saw our marriage has been quite the blessing and our first born came forth as a result of it, many said “Just wait…it will get annoying”. Now as our daughter grows, more experienced parents said “Wait until they reach this age, that age, etc…” Now with our second born, “Oh wait, it will be hard and you will be tired, burnt out, miserable, no time for self” and so on...
All I have to say is, I am so glad our Heavenly Father doesn’t think this way towards us when He deals with our lives as we place it in His hands.
I believe it is time for such demonic influenced thoughts to be cast aside and take on the mind of Christ!
Will times get tough? They sure can, but with a renewed mind and daily searching the heart of God behind every open door and new season, I just see that each time and moment He gives us is to reveal His glory and goodness in a greater way, that without Him nothing would ever be possible or even enjoyable!
Jeremiah 1:5 Before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee; and before thou camest forth out of the womb I sanctified thee, and I ordained thee…
To speak graciously doesn’t mean you don’t correct, what needs to be corrected in your children’s life; but it means you do so in love and speak in love. For LOVE covers a multitude of sins as well as unconditional love covers a multitude of potential sins and even potential annoyances as well!
I don’t claim to know it all as a parent, but I do know one thing, God has called us to obtain a heart like Christ and a disposition that best meets the Heavenly Father’s. Like Jesus said…As The Father does, so do I and as The Father speaks, so I speak.” (John 5:19)
So if we desire our children to manifest what is godly and right, then demonstrate it.
Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
I encourage you, if you find this post to be convicting and as you review your own self and actions and words, simply apologize before God and to your children. Then speak blessings and NOT cursing's and you will be blessed to see how much more God has made your children a real gem to your heart.
Psalm 127:3 children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.
Romans 8:35 WHO shall separate us from THE LOVE of Christ? shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or NAKEDNESS, or peril, or sword?
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